This global pandemic has given me a lot of insight into the male mind, I often generalize men, however you know who you are if I’m talking about you. Try not to get too offended.
Dating in the pandemic is difficult, it’s not easy to find “The One” when you can barely go outside. Sites like Tinder and Hinge have been a hotspot for people who cannot go out and find the love of their life. But since everyone is locked in their house- I guess all the men are horny and want to be unleashed.
Being newly single, I’ve been new to dating apps and I’ve recognized what kind of people inhibit these unknown places who are known to roose in these apps: predators, old men, and gross/corny dudes who don’t know how to talk to women at all.
The few people I’ve met up with were astounded by my pictures but only reduced to making me feel like a child and like someone unable to govern themselves because I own a vagina and they assume immediate dominance. In which I do the same and am looked at funnily because I did not shed vulnerability but instead enact strength.
I consider myself non-binary, I use she/her pronouns only because I’m not going through the trouble of changing them and having people judge me on a matter that doesn’t involve them. I’m not embarrassed by this, I’m rather open about my gender however I choose to be around the people who accept me rather than make me feel othered.
No matter male or female, I will not submit just because I was socialized to. I am not your mother, I will not take care of you or be your outlet of affection- especially if I don’t like you.
Calling me baby and love, when I barely know your last name is a huge turnoff and only further push the idea that men are not chastized when belittling women and covering it up as lovey-dovey.
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